Sometimes I wonder what life would be like if my child was gay. I think about the reactions from friends and family, and even strangers. I wonder if my child would be discriminated against and hated because of his or her sexual preference.
I wonder what life would be like if my child was transgender. Would he or she be labeled a freak? Would he or she be referred to as “it” or with some other derogatory remarks?Would the world be cruel to my precious baby?
When I hear about hate crime against gays, my heart bleeds. I can’t help but imagine my own child in that situation. When I heard about a small town who held a high school prom that excluded gays from attending, it broke my heart. It could have been my own child that was excluded from that right of passage. Heck, it could have been me. I went to my own senior prom with a girl.
Parents who support their LGBT sons and daughters are so strong. The love and respect that they show their children is astounding, and we all need to learn a lesson from them. They stand by their children, and keep an open mind and heart. They know the heartache of seeing their child belittled and rejected because of their sexuality. They feel the pain in their child’s eyes acutely. I can’t imagine what that must be like.
As a parent, I am terrified for my children. Not because I would love them less if they were gay, but because I am afraid of seeing them get hurt. Not once has the question of whether I would still love them if they were gay crossed my mind. I want my children to fall in love. I want them to find true happiness. If that means marrying someone of the same gender, then so be it. I would welcome their spouse into our family with wide open arms.
As I raise my children, I will teach them to love and respect all human beings. I will teach them that it is okay to love whomever they choose to love. I will teach them that equality is essential to freedom. They will grow up being unafraid to stand up to hatred. They will stand up for themselves, as well as for friends and strangers. They will be unafraid to love.
We are devout Christians. I believe in the love of God and his Son Jesus Christ. I believe that the Lord loves each and every one of His children equally. I also believe that homosexuality is not a sin. It makes my blood boil when I see anti-gay protesters holding signs that say, “God Hates Fags.” God does not hate. I truly believe that God smiles down on those who find their soul mates, regardless of gender. And what ever happened to “Judge not, lest ye be judged?” The Bible makes that perfectly clear. One only needs to open up their Bibles to John 8:7. “Let he who is without sin cast the first stone.” We are not put here on Earth to judge one another. We are put here to love.
When will the world understand that we all need to love each other, regardless of sexual preference? Love is blind. It does not discriminate between race, economic standing, or gender. People need to get it out of their heads that a person’s genitals have something to do with who they can love. When I married my husband, it was not because of his penis. It was because of his kindness, his positive attitude, his ever-expanding mind. I fell in love with him because of who he is. If he were Adamella instead of Adam, I would love him just the same. I can’t imagine my life without him, and I can’t imagine not loving him. I hope that when my children find their life partner, they do so without thinking about sex.
If my child is gay, I hope that they feel comfortable telling me. I want them to know that I love them unconditionally, and that I don’t care if they are gay. I want them to know that I support them no matter what, gay or straight. That’s what parents are supposed to do.
The time has come for us to take a stand. Not just for our own children, but for the children of the world. Let us teach them to love unconditionally. Let us teach them that the best cure for hatred is love itself. Let us treat the children of others the same way that we want our own children treated. Spread understanding, not ignorance. Spread acceptance, not intolerance. Spread love and joy to the far reaching corners of the world, so that our children and their children will live in a better place than we did.
For parents: Read this book!
For anyone: Listen to this song!